Sex After Delivery

After you give birth, sex may be the last thing you want to think about, after your baby, or your body. However, sex is an important part of your life and your relationship. When you can resume your sex life? And how to make love comfortably? Here are some recommendations you can consider.

When to have sex after you give birth?

Your baby is an amazing grace, however, carrying a child can affect your sex life.  Before you think of returning to your sex life, the most important thing is that both you and your partner are physically and mentally ready.

After birth, it takes time for your emotions to come back, your cervix to narrow, and bleeding (also known as lochia) to stop. If you have sex before lochia disappear, you may get infections. Make sure your body and your mind are completely comfortable.

Most doctors recommend having sex at least four weeks after your baby was born. However, the time may vary. Some women are ready for sex a few weeks after the delivery while some others want to wait until a few months. It all depends on you. Discuss with your partner about sex and when you want to resume sex life. If there is any problem, tell your doctor.

Your emotions are also important. Only have sex when you really enjoy it.

One more important thing is contraception. Resuming your sex life means you can get pregnant again. Thus, you should consider birth control methods before you have sex. Condoms, birth control pills, and copper can be useful. You can easily discuss with your doctor about this issue.

Will breastfeeding affect your sex life?

Unfortunately, breastfeeding can affect your sex life. You may feel that your vagina does not have enough lubrication. In this situation, lubricants can help. You can buy them at the place where you get condoms but remember to choose water-based lubricants since oil-based products can cause condoms to break.

Your breasts may also feel tender to the touch or sexual stimulations. It is your feeling, so you should tell your partner about it and how you want to be touched. Your breasts may also leak milk when you have sex. If you do not like this, feed your baby or pump your breast before you have sex.

What to do when your partner wants to have sex while you are not in the mood?

This is a common situation when our partner is in mood but you are not ready. You care about your baby rather than sex life. If so, tell your partner. Be honest, you and your partner can work together to find out a suitable solution. However, do not let it ruin your relationship. Let him know that you always love him. There are always other ways to express your love, such as a kiss, a hug, or delicious meals.

Tips to have sex after your delivery

Although most problems can be solved naturally within a year, you can use these tips to promote the improvement.

Do not push yourself too much. Try to return to sex life gradually.

Communication is always important. Discuss with your partner how you want the sexual intercourse occurs.

Start with small sexual activities such as kissing, hugging. Enjoy each other’s body before you two really have sex.

Take good care of yourself. Eat healthy foods, do exercises, and get enough sleep. Strong body and mind can help you resume sex life better.